Carolyn Hax
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Find joy in walking own path vs. tiptoeing on someone else'sJun 27, 2019 1:00 am - By Carolyn Hax Q. My fiance's job is detrimental to his mental health, but he needs it for health insurance due to a serious condition. Our wedding is next year. We are ...
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Never feel shame when leaving abusive relationshipJun 23, 2019 6:00 am - Q. I was married to my ex for 20 years when we divorced. I wasn't attractive to him anymore since I gained weight with our three children - his exact words. I am now mar...
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Look to past experiences when dealing with letdownsJun 17, 2019 11:00 pm - Q. How does one balance expectations between reasonably high and realistic? I've had a few disappointments lately that hit me fairly hard - a promotion dangled and then ...
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Wife is secretive about her pastJun 16, 2019 6:00 am - Q. Is it odd when your spouse doesn't want to share details about her life from before you met? I've been an open book about myself from the beginning and she has been r...
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Brother-in-law takes advantage of others' generosityJun 13, 2019 11:00 pm - Q. My very generous and wealthy (this is relevant) friends offered to throw a dinner for me and my husband for our 10th wedding anniversary. This is a second marriage fo...
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Ex who didn't want kids, has them with new loveJun 09, 2019 11:00 pm - By Carolyn Hax Q. Is there anything to be gained from talking to an ex who said he never wanted children, and absolutely refused to have them, about why he changed his m...
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Beware of making big decisions because of temporary moodsJun 09, 2019 6:00 am - Q. How do you know a big decision is based on what you truly want vs. what you feel you want at the moment? There are low-stakes versions of this, such as dramatically c...
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Dealing with a husband who shows a lack of interest in sexJun 06, 2019 11:00 pm - Q. My husband and I have been married 10 years. We do not have kids; neither of us wanted them. Before we married, we did not have sex, but he was very interested in foo...
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Elderly mom's caretaker needs respite help from siblingsJun 03, 2019 11:00 pm - Q. I am the youngest of five brothers and have cared for my mother for 12 years. I live with mom and my siblings live out of state. At 88, mom needs care that is overwhe...
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How to respond to those who pity me for being childlessJun 02, 2019 6:00 am - Q. I was making small talk at a work function when a woman asked if I had children. I said no. She expressed pity that I hadn't experienced life's greatest joy and said ...