A Father's Day editorial: Messages for and about Dad

This editorial is edited from one published on Father's Day 2014.

Fathers occupy a special place in our lives. Usually for good but sometimes for ill, they are interwoven with who we are.

We went out in search of reflections that would do justice to this imperishable bond. We found them among friends in grief, still trying to put into words what their fathers' passings meant to them:

"My father meant safe and protected. I always knew everything would be just fine. I imagine I'm like most girls who view their fathers as superheroes. It's a bit of a shock to realize they are human but ... I never doubted he could solve any problem or fix anything that was broken."

"My dad was my hero. He taught me about giving, about helping old people and children, about always telling the truth, about humility."

"Now that my dad is gone, I could see all the gifts this lovely man gave me ... He taught me work ethic, if you work hard good things will come your way. Treat everyone with a smile and warmth that you encounter each day. He gave me a love for sports. He showed me to honor your commitments and routine each week ... to forgive people and to love unconditionally."

"My dad will always have a special place in my heart because he always showed me love, even when I was not behaving well. He always respected my feelings ... He taught me tenacity. When he helped family members or friends in need, sharing what we had, he taught me to be generous. When my Mom passed away, he collapsed into my brothers' arms in tears, he taught me to LOVE BIG. When he struggled to remain independent and not to be a burden, he taught me that life is to be lived right up to the last breath."

"The saying, 'The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother' speaks volumes about him. While our father was very tough but just as fair with his children, we always knew he was there for our mother and in turn for us."

"I had a father who was there for me, who was concerned about me in a way that nobody else was. He was the person who 'got me,' the person with whom I could completely and unreservedly be myself."

"When a parent dies, the best you can hope for is that you'll someday learn to live with the loss and that the pain will recede and not be as acute as it is in the early stages of grief. And eventually, time helps moderate the grief, but it's always there, under the surface, ready to come out. For me, Father's Day serves as a reminder that I'll never hear my dad's voice on the phone again."

So here is our Father's Day message:

If you're a father, what words would you want your kids to say about you? Is there anything more you need to do to earn them?

And if you're someone lucky enough to still have your father, what do you want to say to him? Don't let today slip by without saying it.

Happy Father's Day, one and all.