Arlene Sawicki's assumption about marriage being centrally concerned with children and their connection to their biological parents has probably made thousands of adoptive parents, such as my husband and myself, quite upset. First, I have taken many foster kids into my home, as well as being a teacher for over 30 years, and I know for a fact that having a child biologically doth not a parent make. I could tell you horror stories about how some biological parents treat their children.
There are many children in loving, supportive, nurturing homes who have been adopted. Adoptive parents are usually people who cannot wait to love and nurture a child. We know firsthand what a blessing it is to receive such a precious gift.
Secondly, some of my friends have not been able to have children biologically, have been unable to adopt, or maybe they met someone later in life and married. Does that mean that their marriage is a sham? They have wonderful, fulfilling relationships and someone to share life's joys as well as life's setbacks.
I believe that love trumps biological connections any day. I have seen it and I have lived it.