8 essential reminders for parenting a child with autism

When a child gets diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), parents can easily get overwhelmed by questions and concerns.

A study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's Autism and Developmental Disabilities Network found that one in 36 children is diagnosed with autism each year. With little awareness of how it is formed, it’s a common diagnosis that many parents are navigating.

Ascension Illinois autism expert Dr. Shubhrajan Wadyal shares some do’s and don’ts to help guide you along the journey:

Do’s:

• Empower. Autism isn’t a death sentence. Teach your child by example to embrace their uniqueness and abilities, and know that autism doesn’t define their potential. Celebrate their strengths and help them navigate challenges with confidence. As a parent, it’s easy to see what’s not working, but your encouragement empowers them to thrive, so focus on what they can do rather than what they struggle with.

• Be patient. Parenting a child with autism requires a lot of patience no matter the severity of their situation. From navigating where to get the right resources for your child’s development and learning how to calm their rapid behaviors, it can feel like there’s something new to know every day. In that moment, take a deep breath, and remember growth happens gradually.

• Communicate. Two of the most common challenges for kids with autism are delayed or absent speech and difficulty with nonverbal cues. As you work to communicate, find small key ways to connect, whether using visuals, simple language or even sign language. These consistent and interactive engagements will help build the emotional bonds necessary for you and your child to feel comfortable and aligned.

• Educate your kids and family. If your child has other siblings, help them understand autism and the specific needs of their sibling. In order to create a more inclusive and supportive environment at home, express the challenges and different journeys they will experience. This will help not only educate them but also provide open communication and reduce frustration when difficult times arise.

Don’ts

• Don’t shame yourself. There is nothing you could have done to prevent a different outcome than what is. Don’t be too hard on yourself; you're doing your best, and that's more than enough. Perfection isn’t the goal. Focus on creating a positive and nurturing environment for your child. What they need is your love, understanding, and acceptance.

• Don’t isolate. Before you feel like you are alone in this, you’re not. There are millions of parents navigating this journey, and it’s crucial to seek support that allows you space to release and not isolate. Another resourceful outlet is prioritizing self-care. Whether that’s journaling, walking, napping, swimming, hiking or opening a book to read — engage in activities you love and that provide relaxation without interruption.

• Don’t future gaze. Instead of focusing on when your child will improve or what kind of life they will have in high school, college and as an adult, take it one day at a time. Remember, growth and challenges are part of the journey, and the future will unfold as it’s meant to.

• Don’t give up. Progress comes at different paces, and every step is worth celebrating, no matter how small it seems. It’s easy to get caught up in what’s not working, but your child is constantly improving, even if it’s not immediately obvious. Be proud!

Parenting a child with autism comes with its challenges, but it also brings countless rewarding moments of growth and connection. Embrace the journey with patience, understanding, and knowing that every step forward is progress.

• Children's health is a continuing series. This column was provided by Ascension Illinois.