Safeguard children from domestic violence

My name is Kailey Jean Karder, a current student at UIUC studying for a master’s degree in social work.

I was raised in Aurora amid domestic violence. Since my mom’s 2021 passing, grappling with grief and past trauma has been an ongoing struggle. Fueled by anger toward my stepfather, who seemingly emerged unscathed, I contemplate justice. However, I question its true helpfulness; he thrives while I bear the consequences. What about other children in similar situations? What about the neighbors who turned a blind eye?

Amid PTSD, rather than seeking vengeance, I propose channeling efforts into resources for children enduring domestic violence. In my journey, I discovered alarming statistics from DoSomething.Org — 50% of the homeless flee domestic violence; a woman is assaulted every 9 seconds and 60-80% of intimate partner homicides involve male physical aggression. This issue isn’t limited to the survivor; it permeates the entire household.

While resources for domestic violence survivors exist, attention must be directed toward children. Where can they escape? Typically, returning to the abuser is the only option, perpetuating toxicity. Growing up in such an environment, children lack exposure to healthy relationships, resources and protection. This deficiency can lead to future problems.

I implore society to consider the long-term impact on children exposed to domestic abuse. We need accessible resources that allow children to seek help without endangering their parents or them. Many endure silently, fearing exacerbation of abuse. Imagine the anxiety, the constant worry about when harm will strike — an unbearable burden for any child.

I urge the world to prioritize resources for these children, empowering them to take action against domestic abuse without worsening their predicament. It’s not solely the survivor’s responsibility to time their escape; it’s about safeguarding a child’s mental health. Recognize symptoms, intervene and advocate — inaction only perpetuates the cycle.

Kailey Jean Patricia Karder

Aurora