A Gold Star Wife’s request for Memorial Day
NOTE: On Nov. 10, 2010, Arlington Heights lost a son in the service of our nation.
On that date, U.S. Marine Corps Lance Corporal James Stack was killed in action in Sangin, Afghanistan. On that date, James became the 68th Fallen Hero from Arlington Heights.
I can remember how our entire community was deeply affected. Thousands lined the streets as the motorcade brought his body home for burial. Thousands paid their respects and attended his funeral.
On that date, James’ wife, Katie, became a Gold Star Wife, and his daughter, Mikayla, became a Gold Star Daughter. Their world was changed forever, but they recovered and grew with the help of family, friends and faith. Yet, the memory of James has never faded.
Katie’s request below, reprinted with her permission from a 2022 Memorial Day message she offered in a Daily Herald commentary, is something we all need to honor.
Greg Padovani, Chairman
Veterans Memorial Committee of Arlington Heights
Fifteen years ago this November, I learned what a gold star family member was.
Truth is, I never knew the pain and the suffering behind what these families went through, until I, myself, was handed a folded flag that draped over my husband’s casket.
Nov. 10, 2010, I became the widow of U.S. Marine Lance Corporal James Stack. On that day, LCPL James Stack gave the ultimate sacrifice, in Sangin, Afghanistan. He left behind me and my daughter, Mikayla, who was one at the time.
At every Gold Star family’s house, there is an empty seat at the dinner table. There is a laugh and love that is missing. There is a hole that will never be filled.
These men and women, our nation’s fallen heroes, have given the ultimate sacrifice. I want you to think of a wife or husband going to bed while staring at an empty pillow; a child growing up and all they know or remember about their mom or dad are through photos and memories; a mother and father never being able to see the incredible child they raised and the future their child was building for themselves, all because of our nation’s heroes.
We, as a nation, have the ability to breathe this fresh air, hug our loved ones, fly the American flag on our porches as proud Americans — because of these brave men and women.
On Memorial Day, my one request is this: When you view the names and faces of these fallen men and women at Memorial Park in Arlington Heights or at a memorial near you, I challenge you to approach with a heart of recognition and gratitude and say, “Thank you.”
Remember why you get to live in this great and free nation and the great price of that freedom. When gathering with your friends and family to enjoy your picnic or barbecue, take the time to teach your children and others about the true meaning behind this day and to remember our fallen heroes and their families.
And always remember, FREEDOM IS NOT FREE.
• Katie Stack, of Arlington Heights, is Gold Star wife of LCPL James Bray Stack, USMC, KIA, Afghanistan Nov. 10, 2010.