Teen dating violence: What parents should know
Dating, while part of the adolescent experience for many, can sometimes be more violent than many think, especially for teenagers. That’s why February has been designated as Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month.
Understanding teen dating violence
“Teen dating violence encompasses physical, emotional, psychological
and even digital forms of abuse in a dating relationship. It can leave lasting scars, not only physically but also mentally, often affecting a young person’s confidence, academic performance, and overall quality of life,” stated Cecelia Horan Psy.D, director of Child and Adolescent Services at Ascension Alexian Brothers Behavioral Medicine. “Statistics indicate that nearly one in three teens in the U.S. experiences some form of dating abuse, making it vital to address the issue head on.”
Teens who have been in abusive relationships can carry these unhealthy patterns of violence into their future relationships. They may bring this experience with them to the classroom, later relationships and, ultimately, they can end up victims and perpetrators of adult partner violence.
How you can help
There are signs you can look for if you suspect your teen might be in an abusive relationship. These include:
• Signs of jealousy or possessiveness by your teen’s partner, to the point where your child stops spending time with other friends and family.
• Unexplained marks or bruises.
• Depression or anxiety.
• Ending participation in extracurricular activities or other interests.
• Dressing differently, such as wearing loose clothing so as not to attract attention.
• The need to text or call the partner back right away to keep them from becoming upset.
• Fear of their partner’s reaction to a given situation.
“As parents, educators, and community members, you play a vital role in addressing teen dating violence,” Horan says. “Open conversations about healthy relationships, respect, and consent are crucial. Encourage teens to speak up if they or someone they know is in an unhealthy relationship and ensure they feel supported and heard.”
Talk to your teens about their relationships, discussing the warning signs and creating a safe, positive place for them to go with questions or concerns.
If you suspect your child may be in an abusive relationship, contact their physician for help. Or call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at (866) 331-9474 or text “loveis” to 22522. For information on programs or to access support through Ascension Illinois Behavioral Health, call (855) 383-2224.
• Children’s health is a continuing series. This week’s column was submitted by Ascension Illinois.