Find ways to enjoy summer with loved ones

"Let us therefore celebrate the festival ... with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth."

- 1 Corinthians 5:8 (NIV)

Summer is here, and it brings with it sunshine and festivities. It's a time to celebrate.

As a young girl, I enjoyed summer activities such as going to the beach, backyard barbecues, parades and outdoor games. We had a badminton set that we set up over our backyard clothesline. We also played croquet on the empty lot next door.

Although I no longer do some of these activities, they bring me pleasurable memories.

So, when my adult grandson pulled back from some of our family summer activities, mentioning he doesn't like celebrations, I wondered why.

Everyone relaxes in a different way. When adult responsibilities take over our lives, we need time to unwind. Sometimes activity can seem like it takes too much energy. When this is the case, we need to find a balance of relaxing and yet stretching ourselves to expand our social side and keep our contacts alive.

His mother asked him to go to a parade with the family. When he mentioned he didn't like parades, I was surprised. Although I have always enjoyed the celebration of local parades, I realize some people don't like big crowds; they are more introverted by nature and enjoy the serenity of isolation. Others have problems with the noise of the sirens and loud music. In either case, they could enjoy watching a parade with the family on TV.

Although this is not true in my grandson's case, some haven't had a good role model. Their families didn't have parties, picnics or get-togethers - no swimming or outdoor fun - so they weren't exposed to the idea of celebrating summer. They don't understand what fun it can be.

And on the more serious side, I wondered if he was depressed or overwhelmed with his new job and family responsibilities. When you feel depressed, it attacks your energy. You feel down and out and don't feel like doing much of anything. You lack motivation to do anything extra, let alone get through the day. When this is the case, seek medical help.

So, I explained to our family, because Jesus created us to celebrate with family and friends, we need to encourage our loved one without being pushy. Try starting with a small outing. Also, ask what he would like to do and incorporate what is fun for him. Reinforce any good times he has had.

And be patient. People don't change overnight.

I hope these tips help you or your loved one have an enjoyable summertime.

• Annettee Budzban is a Christian author, speaker, life coach and nurse. She can be contacted at annetteebudzban@aol.com or (847) 543-8413.