Helping someone who may be suicidal

Signs that someone may be suicidal:

• An unrelenting low mood, expressing feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, pessimism, rage or anger

• Threatening suicide, or making comments (or writing) about death, saying things like “When I'm gone, it'll be better for you,” or “I won't be around much longer”

• Withdrawing from family, friends and enjoyable activities

• Having a troubled family life

• Little or no talk of the future

• Sleep or appetite disturbances

• Increased drug or alcohol use

• Difficulty or bullying at school or work

• Giving away prized possessions

• Friends or others they know have committed suicide

• Several major losses in a short span

• Sudden or impulsive purchases of a gun, poisons or medication

• Taking unnecessary risks

• Sudden relief when nothing has changed, which could indicate that they've made suicide plans

How to help

What to do if you fear a friend or loved one is suicidal:

• Reach out and let them know you care. Try to relate to them, understand their situation and listen without judgment. Don't be afraid to ask the obvious question, “Are you thinking things would be better if you were dead?” Ask if they have a plan and keep in mind if they have access to guns or pills. If the situation seems serious, do not leave them alone. Take them to the ER or call 911. If it doesn't seem critical, point them to a mental health professional and follow up to see how they're doing.

• Encourage them to call hotlines or talk with psychologists or psychiatrists. Suicide.org, save.org, suicidepreventionlifeline.org and afsp.org are all excellent resources.

• Help them find a purpose. It could be taking care of a pet, a family member or volunteering.

Sources: Daily Herald interviews, suicide.org, afpd.org, save.org and suicidepreventionlifeline.org