Giving child away creates horror, too

This letter is in response to a letter by Frank Ardito of Huntley appearing in the Oct. 15 edition.

Frank makes compelling arguments against abortion. Being a pro-life advocate myself, I am with him in that arena. Where we depart is that Frank believes that adoption rather than abortion is the answer to an unplanned pregnancy.

Women who have abortions do so because they do not want to carry a child for nine months and give that child away. It is too painful. I have walked this walk, Frank. I know hundreds of other women who surrendered children for adoption because someone like you convinced them during a time of great stress that this was the right solution.

It is time that women who have lived a lifetime of grief stand up and tell their stories. Ask any mother how she would feel about having her child removed from her and reared by strangers.

Why anyone would think the horror of that loss does not also exist for unwed mothers is beyond me. What happens in real life is that no one steps up to help a single pregnant woman who needs temporary help except adoption advocates and abortionists.

Please consider advocating for programs to help preserve the original family. Unwed mothers are not people who abuse or neglect their children. They are people who need tangible help to get on their feet and make a life for themselves and their child. If this kind of help were available, fewer people would place a child for adoption and fewer people would abort.

Mary Ross

Regional director

Concerned United

Birth Parents

Elburn