A wedding where judgment was suspended

Last Friday we gathered to celebrate the marriage of our youngest son. It wasn't what some would refer to as a "traditional wedding" because there were two grooms. Until the marriage bill passed, we didn't have the reassurance that Illinois would view it as a legal marriage.

Not everyone who attended the wedding supported the bill. Some held religious views which were in conflict with it. Some were just unsure. But they all came together in unity to support David and Charlie.

The room was overflowing with love as we walked Charlie down the aisle. When the unity candles were lit everyone became silent. They strained to hear the couple vow to love and support one another for eternity. I was overwhelmed by the spirit of joy there.

After the boys broke the wineglass, we shouted "mazel tov." They kissed and walked down the aisle as husband and husband. I don't think there was a dry eye in the room.

The lesson here is that it is possible to keep your religious or political beliefs from infringing upon the rights of others. Even David's parents, devout Catholics, were present to support their son. As the new pope has stated, it is not our role to judge.

That evening people from many different cultural and religious backgrounds came together to embrace and support others, regardless of their own beliefs. The common denominator was love. After the ceremony, everyone shared a meal. Then the dance floor became a collage of swirling colors as they whirled around with increasing fervor. Those who'd arrived with doubt left smiling. For one lovely evening, they'd witnessed all judgment cast aside. The spirit of love prevailed. My dream to dance at the wedding of my son and his beloved had finally come true.

Joanne Bohman Gurion

Rolling Meadows