Never give up hope even after loss

If you have ever lost someone extremely important to you, you have probably felt like there is no hope. Like there is no reason to still be alive. What’s the point, right? People try to fix you. They throw medications, research statistics and therapists at you. But they don’t understand. So why do they try to fix something that will always be broken?

Because they care. Plain and simple. But often, we ignore the people who care the most about us. We don’t let them in, and we don’t show them the pain we feel. It’s not fair what we are going through.

At 17, I watched my father die. I lost a father, but someone else might have lost a mother, a grandparent, an aunt, an uncle. We all have wounds in our hearts we are trying to heal. They hurt, they ache. And they won’t go away. But don’t dwell on the sadness, because if we learned anything from losing someone we love, it’s that life is too short to not go out and make the best of it.

So you know what? I take back everything I said before. There is hope — hope that there will be a tomorrow with something great in it. And there are many reasons to live. You know that the person you lost would not want you to give up the life they couldn’t have. So live your life for them. Let people try to fix you. Let people in. Let people see the hurt you hold. Because as much as you don’t want to admit it, you cannot do this alone.

Yes, there will always be a part of you that is broken, but live each day to try to find the bandage.

Amy Grasso

Schaumburg