Daughters need female role models

I was pleased to see that a vote to allow gay marriage in Illinois was tabled in the House. To be honest, I’ve always been puzzled by people who argue that I should view same-sex and heterosexual marriage as equally natural and entitled to the same rights and protections under the law. Even more baffling to me is the belief that children aren’t impacted by the values and marital sex life patterns modeled by their parents.

Proponents of gay marriage and gay parenting contend that there is no natural law that prescribes what is right or wrong in either sphere. Their argument is that what is important is simply making sure that the” rights” of the adult partners to pair up with whomever they want is not infringed upon. In their judgment, kids and society will do just fine whatever the family structure is just as long as there is “love” in the home. Are we sure?

I became unexpectedly widowed when my daughter and son were respectively nine and seven years old. The six years that went by before the Lord led me to the wonderful woman I have subsequently married were rough ones for us. Indeed, “finding herself” and charting out what being a woman meant was particularly difficult for my daughter without a female role model around. She is 30 now and fortunately has weathered those years to become a happy, “together” young woman thanks in no small part to the influence of my new wife.

I offer as food for thought, however, the question of whether I would be able to be saying the same thing right now if the replacement mom I brought home to my daughter had had the name of Dave?

Len Meyer

Hoffman Estates