Articles filed under Hax, Carolyn

• Confronting mom should just be about your feelings May 14, 2013 12:00 AM
  Daughter is annoyed that Mom would rather spend time with her multiple cats than with her new grandson. But Carolyn Hax says express your feelings without hating what the good things Mom does with her time.
  

   

• Don’t be resentful of boyfriend’s need to host family May 7, 2013 12:00 AM
  She lives with her boyfriend in his mother's vacation home. While they pay the bills as if it were their own, she is resentful that his family comes to visit and doesn't help with any of the expenses. Carolyn Hax says her boyfriend needs to do this in order to not feel like a "freeloader."
  

   

• Whirlwind, long distance relationship not necessarily bad Apr 30, 2013 12:00 AM
  Reader thinks her friend's new whirlwind relationship with a recently divorced man now on deployment sets off all kinds of red flags.
  

   

• Staying true to yourself is vital with off and on BFF Apr 30, 2013 12:00 AM
  I have a longtime friend who I once considered a "best friend." We connect at the heart, and have relied on each other a lot over the years. Several years back, she went through a tough professional transition and completely cut me off. Not because she was angry with me, but because she needed to move through it alone. I was devastated that she would not return my calls, respond to my emails, accept my invitations, etc. That went on for nearly two years. Ultimately we worked it out, and all was well for a few years.
  

   

• Husband can’t stay friends with former affair partner Apr 23, 2013 12:00 AM
  Her newlywed husband previously had a long-term relationship with a woman who turned out to be married. They remained in contact for 11 years. Since their marriage, the woman has intruded on their lives, which the wife resents. She believes her husband wants to remain friends with the woman. How should she handle this?
  

   

• Be there for sick brother and self, regardless of what mom says Apr 23, 2013 12:00 AM
  
  

   

• Finding — and eating — the hidden candy stash, yeah, that’s normalApr 21, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. Oh, Carolyn, I’m having some food issues with my son. The kids found the Easter candy I had bought for them and were eating it all! I noticed my 7-year-old son’s tongue was bright pink. I asked him what he had been eating. He told me he wasn’t eating anything. I told him I knew he wasn’t telling me the truth and it made me sad. I didn’t yell, but inside I’m panicking.
  

   

• Smothering boyfriend is driving her crazy Apr 18, 2013 12:00 AM
  Several times a day, her boyfriend will text to say how happy he is they are dating, then ask if she feels the same. Also, he always finds some way to be touching her. This is driving her crazy. But, she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. What to do?
  

   

• How to help a daughter with marital troubles? Apr 16, 2013 12:00 AM
  Her 27-year-old daughter has been married for just over two years and is feeling she "is living the wrong life, like she's not in the right place." How can her mom help?
  

   

• Readers share advice that comes from experience Apr 7, 2013 12:00 AM
  Many years ago I went through a devastating divorce after a long marriage, and my former husband eventually remarried. One day I saw a snapshot of his new wife holding the hand of my precious 3-year-old granddaughter, my first grandchild, at a fair. They were smiling together, obviously having a great time. It went through me like a sword.
  

   

• Time with dad was precious to teen Apr 2, 2013 12:00 AM
  
  

   

• Past cheating episode is but a tree in the forest Mar 31, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. I cheated on my ex. I'm extremely ashamed of this part of my past. I understand now why I did it: to avoid facing a painful reality, and to avoid sharing my feelings with my ex because I was afraid of his reaction. I've grown immensely since then.
  

   

• Sexless relationship should be grounds for breaking up Mar 26, 2013 12:00 AM
  Although we've had sex before, my boyfriend of two years has zero interest in sex with me or anyone else. He just doesn't feel the need (we used to have sex often, before the relationship was committed). This makes me feel unwanted, unloved, and incredibly self-conscious and paranoid.
  

   

• Bride needs to heed warning signs before getting married Mar 20, 2013 12:00 AM
  Columnist Carolyn Hax warns this clearly social bride that marrying into a controlling, introverted family may not be the best choice. She advises the woman to take in the whole scope of her life with this person, and decide whether she really wants everything she's about to sign up for.
  

   

• Allow your grown child to make her own choices Mar 12, 2013 12:00 AM
  This daughter is resentful that her parents wouldn't accept her previous boyfriend. It turned out the ex-boyfriend had a drug problem, so the parents feel justified in not accepting him. How can the parents and daughter mend their relationship?
  

   

• Do what feels right for you in letting go of pain of childhood Mar 12, 2013 12:00 AM
  Carolyn Hax offers a few ways for woman to release the pain of a rocky childhood and abuse suffered at hands of mentally ill father.
  

   

• Be up front with Mom to avoid more hurt feelings Mar 12, 2013 12:00 AM
  My mother is the sweetest, most caring mother a girl could ever ask for. However, she has a tendency to overstep her boundaries. She recently invited herself on a vacation with my family. I noted very delicately that it would be difficult to see and do everything we wanted to with her in tow and we should see each other another time. She still insists.
  

   

• Ex drives a wedge between spouses at events Mar 10, 2013 12:00 AM
  Trust your husband to be the person he has shown himself to be over the years, of course — but more important, trust yourself to handle this single, isolated, upsetting-but-ultimately-inconsequential thing in your relationship.
  

   

• Grandma not obligated to drop everything to baby-sit Mar 5, 2013 12:00 AM
  Reader is annoyed her mother-in-law will find any excuse in the book not to baby-sit, even though she is open to dinner, drinks and vacations. Carolyn Hax says, she's not obligated to baby-sit at the drop of a hat.
  

   

• What to say to friends who complain about their weight? Mar 5, 2013 12:00 AM
  How should I respond when svelte friends pat their (small or nonexistent) bellies and announce they're dieting to get rid of their "belly pooch"?