Articles filed under Hax, Carolyn

• Including Grandma in the wedding is right thing to do Jun 18, 2013 12:00 AM
  Daughter's upcoming nuptials will be somewhat religious, which angers grandma. Should she not be invited to avoid family drama, or should she be allowed to attend despite her objections.
  

   

• Taking the high road Jun 16, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. My youngest sister is getting married in a few weeks. She’s the only child from my dad’s second marriage and the age difference between us is nearly two decades.
  

   

• Dealing with life’s issues only way to move forward Jun 11, 2013 12:00 AM
  She think her boyfriend has an anxiety disorder and needs a professional, he says he's just a little stressed out. Carolyn Hax says that before they can move forward, they need to be honest about what is truly going on.
  

   

• Keeping yourself in mind during family woesJun 9, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. My husband and I are returning to my hometown for a celebration where we will see many people who haven’t seen me since I graduated from high school. I’m dreading the expected question “Do you have any children?”
  

   

• Family doesn’t give as good as it gets from son Jun 7, 2013 12:00 AM
  Son says he gives and gives to help his family out, but when it is his turn to ask for financial assistance, they tell him no. He asks if he should cut ties, but Carolyn Hax says to stay generous and give them another chance.
  

   

• Talk to sisters openly, honestly about fiance slight Jun 4, 2013 12:00 AM
  It really bothers me that whenever I talk to my sisters who live in other cities, they never ask about my fiance. Obviously, they do not approve of our relationship. Carolyn Hax says give them a chance to explain before passing judgments.
  

   

• Simple solutions to disputing families Jun 2, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. My husband and I get in a fight almost every time we try to do something fun together, either alone or with our kids, who are both under 3. I do something dumb (say, forgetting some important item). Husband says something insulting about it. I get defensive and badger him. ("You were supposed to ...") He gets angry at me for "ruining our day."
  

   

• Make sisters take responsibility for their feud May 28, 2013 12:00 AM
  Her sisters can't seem to stand each other and have been feuding their whole lives. She's stuck in the middle and doesn't know what to do. Carolyn Hax says fighting siblings need to take responsibility for their own actions.
  

   

• Violent children can tear family apart May 26, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. I'm having trouble dealing with my violent niece and nephew, 5 and 7. I have two children of my own a little older. We are a tight family that (mostly, despite this big issue) enjoys hanging out together quite often. It's common for the 5-year-old to hold my 7-year-old down and just swing punches.
  

   

• Treat every relationship, friend or otherwise, as an emotional victory May 21, 2013 12:00 AM
  Becoming someone else to get a guy means remaining someone else to keep the guy plus, you’d be doing all this work for someone who doesn’t think funny is sexy. Talk about pearls before swine.
  

   

• Girlfriend thinks freelancing job not ‘gritty’ enough May 21, 2013 12:00 AM
  He wants to marry longtime girlfriend, but a recent revelation about her feelings toward his freelance career has put doubts in his mind about their future together.
  

   

• Draw your own lines in relationship and live accordingly May 14, 2013 12:00 AM
  The chemistry in my nine-month relationship is awesome, the hard work feels minimal, we stay up late and talk often. I've always wanted my lover to be my best friend. There's only one problem: He already has a best friend, his ex-girlfriend of eight years (friend of 17). He broke up with her because it was an unhappy relationship and their counselor said it was "maladaptive." He's made it clear to her that she would be the last woman on Earth he would date again.
  

   

• Confronting mom should just be about your feelings May 14, 2013 12:00 AM
  Daughter is annoyed that Mom would rather spend time with her multiple cats than with her new grandson. But Carolyn Hax says express your feelings without hating what the good things Mom does with her time.
  

   

• Don’t be resentful of boyfriend’s need to host family May 7, 2013 12:00 AM
  She lives with her boyfriend in his mother's vacation home. While they pay the bills as if it were their own, she is resentful that his family comes to visit and doesn't help with any of the expenses. Carolyn Hax says her boyfriend needs to do this in order to not feel like a "freeloader."
  

   

• Let daughter navigate adult relationship on her own May 7, 2013 12:00 AM
  My lovely, 23-year-old daughter is a romantic and wants to marry the young man she is dating. They have "officially" dated two years, but were friends for years before that. They talk all the time about their future, even about living together, which I completely oppose.
  

   

• Whirlwind, long distance relationship not necessarily bad Apr 30, 2013 12:00 AM
  Reader thinks her friend's new whirlwind relationship with a recently divorced man now on deployment sets off all kinds of red flags.
  

   

• Staying true to yourself is vital with off and on BFF Apr 30, 2013 12:00 AM
  I have a longtime friend who I once considered a "best friend." We connect at the heart, and have relied on each other a lot over the years. Several years back, she went through a tough professional transition and completely cut me off. Not because she was angry with me, but because she needed to move through it alone. I was devastated that she would not return my calls, respond to my emails, accept my invitations, etc. That went on for nearly two years. Ultimately we worked it out, and all was well for a few years.
  

   

• Husband can’t stay friends with former affair partner Apr 23, 2013 12:00 AM
  Her newlywed husband previously had a long-term relationship with a woman who turned out to be married. They remained in contact for 11 years. Since their marriage, the woman has intruded on their lives, which the wife resents. She believes her husband wants to remain friends with the woman. How should she handle this?
  

   

• Be there for sick brother and self, regardless of what mom says Apr 23, 2013 12:00 AM
  
  

   

• Finding — and eating — the hidden candy stash, yeah, that’s normalApr 21, 2013 12:00 AM
  Q. Oh, Carolyn, I’m having some food issues with my son. The kids found the Easter candy I had bought for them and were eating it all! I noticed my 7-year-old son’s tongue was bright pink. I asked him what he had been eating. He told me he wasn’t eating anything. I told him I knew he wasn’t telling me the truth and it made me sad. I didn’t yell, but inside I’m panicking.