Have you ever wondered why? Why you can't lose the weight and keep it off? Why you can't get and stay clean and sober? Why your relationships all end the same way--badly? Countless times each, we make choices based on what we believe about ourselves, others, and even God (Spirit, the Universe, our Higher Power). According to Jerry Troyer, author of "Coming Out to Ourselves, Admitting, Accepting, and Embracing Who We Truly Are", these choices are often based on feelings of shame, guilt, and regret and can keep us from expressing and experiencing all he good that Life has for us. Self-defeating behaviors and patterns can express in or be the result of a messy divorce, troubling financial challenge, confusion or shame about our sexual orientation, feelings of abandonment or rejection from being adopted, sexual abuse, or other equally difficult life experiences.
Being adopted, our sexual orientation, being abused as a child, the loss of a job, and other life experiences can often leave us with guilt, shame, regret and the need for forgiveness -- of ourselves and others. Coming Out to Ourselves asks us to look at what we believe about ourselves and others, and change what no longer serves us, let alone makes sense to us. When we do change our perceptions and our judgments, we start healing the cause of the negative and destructive feelings within us -- which many believe are at the core of all forms of substance abuse (food, drugs, alcohol, spending, hurtful relationships) -- and begin to make life choices that really are in our best interests.
Rev. Jerry Troyer will present his interactive workshop, "It's My Story And It's Sticking To Me" at the Center for Spiritual Evolution, 204 Spring St., in Cary on Friday, March 15 from 7 to 9 p.m. Suggested donation $20. The workshop invites, encourages and even challenges participants to go inside and begin to identify beliefs and feelings that no longer serve them.
Rev. Jerry Troyer is the senior minister of Joyful Living Church in San Diego, and the author of the new book, titled "Coming Out to Ourselves…Admitting, Accepting and Embracing Who We Truly Are." A native of San Diego, Rev. Jerry began studying Religious Science and New Thought in 1990. In December 2008, he was lovingly released from his full-time secular job with a technology market research company, and he stepped into full-time ministry.